(for some reason, quoting the above post doesn't work?!?)
re: their dreams, not yours - good. My oldest son is her age, and has been playing and composing (on piano) for a few years now. As a result of my being pushed by parents (and I thank(ed) them openly for that years later, but not way back as a kid) I can never pressure him too hard. I leave that to his teacher (a colleague/band mate of mine for decades) and she in turn facilitates his creative output by leaning on him to create new works for music festival adjudications.
All in all, kids have to develop at their own pace. One should not live their personal dreams through their children...