i just went through a similar situation with a band that was a close knit group of friends for YEARS. A similar situation happened to me, but I was the person that they decided was the problem. just MAYBE I WAS? We were tracking material and lost focus of everything the band was about. My advice would not to be to record and complete and album, take what you have and get it done, wether it be just a few songs.
If the band is still interested in doing what you are all doing together, it will all come together... just remember that it is everyones project, and personally, it was only after the fact that i could see what was going on... as i still have 14 recorded, ready to be mixed finished songs just sitting collecting dust
what i would suggest more than anything is to practice so that you can lay your parts down without alot of editing, i feel that a drummers vibe can be lost from alot of that editing, even though you CAN make BFD and all sorts of sample replacement/ adjustment work (look at the expansion packs) and sound good..... and use samples to enchance the sound thumbsup
my point is that without sounding like a preacher is that you need to get the guys jazzed about what they are doing, and keep an open communication with them. ask them what they all collectively want to do, and move on from there
If Finishing the album is a priority, the best experience i had is including them and making them feel like a part of it all, i'm sure that they wuld love to 'help'
If not, then get it done and move on, just make sure to not let them take away your focus of making kick as music, cuz thats what its all about, because in a bad case, it can get messy