Having to be on the side of someone who's wrong

MikeTSH · 23rd May 2009

Well, I'm not really going to go into the long detail of what's happened, but basically it's just annoying me I have to be on the side of someone in my family, even though I feel the person on the other end did nothing wrong - so I have to lie about how I feel about people just to make them happy.

It's really starting to get to me now.

kafka · 23rd May 2009

Umm, then don't?

DontLetMeDrown · 23rd May 2009

F*ck that! Tell the world how you feel.thumbsup

MikeSV · 23rd May 2009

Your family member should understand your point of view as well, and not expect you to always have to side with them, regardless of the situation.

MikeTSH · 23rd May 2009

It's not the person that's in the wrong I'm in fear of offending, it's the guilt trip I'd be sent on by my parents and other relatives for doing so.

Lute · 23rd May 2009

There's enough conceit in the world already, speak the truth and stand by it too, always

Silver Sonya · 24th May 2009

Without knowing the situation, it sounds like a bad decision.

Lying usually gets you down the road. Truth is usually a good thing.

There are situations where this rule does not apply (you don't tell a fat person "you're fat!" for example). But, it's a good general rule to live by.

Swallow hard, speak the truth.

- c

Prime Tire · 25th May 2009

The difference between telling white lies to make people feel better and straight up telling the truth is that people will like you if you tell a white lie but they'll value your opinion if you tell the truth. Granted, you don't have to be a dick when telling the truth, but in the long run people value honesty a lot more than meaningless words tossed out to make them feel better. And the worst that will happen from you telling the truth to people you care about is that if they subconsciously want to be lied to about something they won't come to you to get the hard truth. No loss there.

CREAMY WILLIAMS · 25th May 2009

You have got to be able to live with yourself, man....

It is one thing if you "don't go there" on certain issues, but you have got to be able to look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day.

Try to be calm about it, but sometimes wrong is just wrong.

23rd May 2009	#1
MikeTSH Guitar/Vox of Skyway Ave. Joined: Oct 2008 Location: Bournemouth, UK Posts: 1,275 Thread Starter 2 Reviews written	Having to be on the side of someone who's wrong Well, I'm not really going to go into the long detail of what's happened, but basically it's just annoying me I have to be on the side of someone in my family, even though I feel the person on the other end did nothing wrong - so I have to lie about how I feel about people just to make them happy. It's really starting to get to me now. __________________ Musician, Mixing Engineer, Writer http://facebook.com/skywayavenuemusic My frozen dairy beverage bringeth all the gentlefolk to the yard, and they claim, "Surely, 'tis better than thine! Surely, 'tis better than thine!" I'd instruct you, though I must levy a fee.

23rd May 2009	#6
Lute Lives for gear Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 1,584	There's enough conceit in the world already, speak the truth and stand by it too, always __________________ The Dome of Clement now available: http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/philter2# Minimal Cheese: www.cdbaby.com/cd/philter

25th May 2009	#9
CREAMY WILLIAMS Lives for gear Joined: Apr 2008 Location: Netherlands Posts: 1,653	You have got to be able to live with yourself, man.... It is one thing if you "don't go there" on certain issues, but you have got to be able to look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day. Try to be calm about it, but sometimes wrong is just wrong. __________________ Cream, cream, electric cream... "Who says a jazz band can't play dance music? Who says a rock band can't play funky? Who says a funk band can't play rock?" George Clinton "The supranational sovereignty of an intellectual elite and world bankers is surely preferable to the national auto-determination practiced in past centuries." David Rockefeller 1991 www.myspace.com/lordcreamywilliams

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23rd May 2009	#2
kafka Lives for gear Joined: Apr 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 4,267	Umm, then don't?

23rd May 2009	#3
DontLetMeDrown Lives for gear Joined: Sep 2005 Location: USA Posts: 1,789	F*ck that! Tell the world how you feel.thumbsup

23rd May 2009	#4
MikeSV Gear maniac Joined: May 2009 Posts: 267	Your family member should understand your point of view as well, and not expect you to always have to side with them, regardless of the situation.

24th May 2009	#7
Silver Sonya Lives for gear Joined: Sep 2004 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 7,209	Without knowing the situation, it sounds like a bad decision. Lying usually gets you down the road. Truth is usually a good thing. There are situations where this rule does not apply (you don't tell a fat person "you're fat!" for example). But, it's a good general rule to live by. Swallow hard, speak the truth. - c

25th May 2009	#8
Prime Tire Gear nut Joined: Feb 2009 Location: Long Island and Maryland Posts: 113	The difference between telling white lies to make people feel better and straight up telling the truth is that people will like you if you tell a white lie but they'll value your opinion if you tell the truth. Granted, you don't have to be a dick when telling the truth, but in the long run people value honesty a lot more than meaningless words tossed out to make them feel better. And the worst that will happen from you telling the truth to people you care about is that if they subconsciously want to be lied to about something they won't come to you to get the hard truth. No loss there.