She wont wear my Jewlery gifts! WTF.

[Jay-]

She wont wear my Jewelry gifts!

This women I'm trying to get with had a birthday so I got her a gold bracelet.
GASP, she never wears it! So I thought Id bump up the relationship and got her a nice gold necklace. So man she is not wearing it again!
I cant figure women out.

But lay it on me, not using my fancy gifts is another cold shoulder ain't it.
(then again, perhapse if I had a cell phone id be more popular)

[olivia_nb]

ha!
maybe she hates gold? take the time to get to actually know her and maybe you'll understand her and then you can get with her...
maybe in the middle ages a gold coin or two could pop open a chastity belt, but today's women seem to want something more... like, um... substance?

[PoorGlory]

Jewelry and (worse) lingerie are two things that SUCK to buy for chick. Precisely for that reason... you really don't know if she'll hate it or not.

Buy her a one-way ticket to YourAssIsDumpedVille if she won't even humor you and wear your thoughtful gift a few times.

[Jay-]

Hmm, I asked her. She said she is afrade of breaking it at work.
Hmm...

[olivia_nb]

Originally Posted by PoorGlory

Jewelry and (worse) lingerie are two things that SUCK to buy for chick. Precisely for that reason... you really don't know if she'll hate it or not.

Buy her a one-way ticket to YourAssIsDumpedVille if she won't even humor you and wear your thoughtful gift a few times.

OMG?! Thoughtful gift?! It is only a thoughtful gift if it's something she will actually like, and how do you know that? C'mon men of gearslutz, you know the frequency curve of every mic made since 1940, but you haven't figured out how to talk to a woman, or better yet, listen to a woman?! hahahahahahahahaha!

[Jay-]

Originally Posted by PoorGlory

if she won't even humor you and wear your thoughtful gift a few times.

OMG, thats all I expected in return was that she show it off to me one time!
Something I could look at and admire.

[Spookym15]

Originally Posted by Jay-

She wont wear my Jewelry gifts!

This women I'm trying to get with had a birthday so I got her a gold bracelet.
GASP, she never wears it! So I thought Id bump up the relationship and got her a nice gold necklace. So man she is not wearing it again!
I cant figure women out.

But lay it on me, not using my fancy gifts is another cold shoulder ain't it.
(then again, perhapse if I had a cell phone id be more popular)

So your not really in a relationship with her? She may think you are being too forward.

[plexisys]

If you really cared about her you would buy her a 513c or something like that.

Ya, come on, baby needs a new pre.......(note funky wha wha pedal in background music) yea baby com on....just 3 db more......

[PoorGlory]

Originally Posted by olivia_nb

OMG?! Thoughtful gift?! It is only a thoughtful gift if it's something she will actually like, and how do you know that? C'mon men of gearslutz, you know the frequency curve of every mic made since 1940, but you haven't figured out how to talk to a woman, or better yet, listen to a woman?! hahahahahahahahaha!

Jewelry isn't thoughtful? Do you have any idea how hard it is to go into a jewelry store (or pawn shop ) and try to figure out what a girl will like? It's ridiculous.

And no woman I've ever given a diamond to hasn't worn it at least a few times. Broads love big ****ing rocks. Even lesbians.

[staudio]

Originally Posted by plexisys

If you really cared about her you would buy her a 513c or something like that.

Ya, come on, baby needs a new pre.......(note funky wha wha pedal in background music) yea baby com on....just 3 db more......

Oh my ****ing god I just fell over laughing. If only more women were in this field and as nerdy as me.

[celticrogues]

Originally Posted by Spookym15

So your not really in a relationship with her? She may think you are being too forward.

+1

[Pfhuck]

Depending on her career, "she is afraid of breaking it at work" isn't necessarily a bad thing. I've bought my lady a few jewelry items, and she doesn't wear them to work either.

Fine by me.

My girl has bought me a few microphones, a guitar, and a small tube amp (and countless other non music stuff). I don't feel obligated to use them on every session...

Maybe those jewelry items don't fit with her "vibe" or "style" sometimes.



As a previous poster stated - if you're not already in a relationship with her, maybe you're coming on too strong.


Take a step back, hit on some other chicks, play "hard to get" and if she's really interested in you.... she'll come running.


Please and thank you,
Pfhuck

[Birdi]

Originally Posted by Jay-

She wont wear my Jewelry gifts!

This women I'm trying to get with had a birthday so I got her a gold bracelet.
GASP, she never wears it! So I thought Id bump up the relationship and got her a nice gold necklace. So man she is not wearing it again!
I cant figure women out.

But lay it on me, not using my fancy gifts is another cold shoulder ain't it.
(then again, perhapse if I had a cell phone id be more popular)

Jeeeeezuuus guys!

if you really really really cared you would get a pair of ...distressors..... !

The truth is some chicks are just not that into wearing jewelry, and the ones that are, spend ages picking pieces for themselves...its a serious business, jewelry, as serious as choosing shoes and bags. Personlly, I hardly every wear necklaces (look ugly on me ) or bracelets (annoy the crap out of me) but love huge dangling earrings and glittery hairpins.
And most women will favor either silver or gold, all depends on coloring. As I have fair slightly olive skin, grey eyes and black hair, gold looks crap on me.

While we are on the topic of gifts for the ladies, don't buy perfume unless you know her specific scent, and then only get related product, ie hand cream, body cream, soap etc.

Lingerie = bad bad bad. Giving lingerie says all you are interested in is sex, and have been visualising her naked - which you would have been- its not romantic. Women like at least the illusion of romance, and to entertain the idea that you are interested in her mind as well.....the gift of lingerie says neither of these things.

The idea is to find out what she is interested in and buy gifts appropriate to the stage of the relationship. If you are not in an actual relationship but activley pursuing, jewelry is too personal and too forward.

It implies an intimacy not yet established, and the wearing or not wearing of the gift can be awkward for the recipent. If she wears it it could imply she is interested, or, she might be wearing it out of politeness. If she doesnt wear it, it may be that she hates it or it doesnt suit her, or, she doesnt want the giver to think she is interested. Or she is interested but doesnt want to show it just yet. Or she doesnt know yet if she is interested.Or not.

A good gift at this stage, would be a book about a subject she is interested in, shows you have actually been listening to her at some stage ( and not just staring at her cleavage or legs). Or a CD of music you have discussed. Or somthing inexpensive that relates to a hobby. Thoughtful but not too personal is the idea. If completly at loss, a plant is acceptable.

Bird.

[Drlove]

If you have to spend $ on her to get some play you're with the wrong woman.

[sanddigger1]

Originally Posted by olivia_nb

C'mon men of gearslutz, you know the frequency curve of every mic made since 1940, but you haven't figured out how to talk to a woman, or better yet, listen to a woman?! hahahahahahahahaha!

Listening to a woman ? uh ? I guess I do it too well... I always end being their 'gay friend' or something like that, except that I'm NOT gay !

If I had an advice to give : dont be too nice !

Well, back to this wonderful book about mics of the 40s...

[Jay-]

Yeppers, I'm the "to nice Gay friend" also. Good manners, excellent cook and NOT GAY.

[kpaw]

Stop bitching, lol.

I have a 3-inch long key made from white and yellow gold (18 karat) for my wife. It is made as a twisted rope design (if you can imagine that), is studded with 3 diamonds and 3 emeralds, and has a locking clasp that will allow it to lock into the 18 karat, 18 inch thick rope chain for her neck. Total cost was almost $8,000.

She is afraid to wear it out!!!!!

[piotr]

Originally Posted by kpaw

I have a 3-inch long key made from white and yellow gold (18 karat) for my wife. It is made as a twisted rope design (if you can imagine that), is studded with 3 diamonds and 3 emeralds, and has a locking clasp that will allow it to lock into the 18 karat, 18 inch thick rope chain for her neck. Total cost was almost $8,000.

wow!
that sounds ugly like hell...
and, being a key/lock/rope/chain combo, kind of creepy too!

but don't take it too personally: I was just "impressed" with your description...

;-)

p.

[heyman]

Has anyone brought this up...?

Maybe the reason she doesnt wear it is because she is seeing someone else on the side?

Hey you never know nowadays..

[Brian!]

This thread is creepy.

[YZ!]

Originally Posted by Jay-

She wont wear my Jewelry gifts!

Jewelry rules:

A) the 'nevers':

1- jewelry is never the first gift
2- jewelry is never the second gift
3- jewelry is never given after the first sex encounter

B) the 'always'

1- Always wait until you've seen enough of the jewelry she already has
2- always wait until you've gone out with her enough times to notice what kind of jewelry she likes on other women _and_ at jeweler's windows.

IOW:

- Jewelry is something you give after the relationship is already somewhat established.

Corollary:

- Jewelry is not to be used to get into her pants; If you do and succeed, she isn't worth it

Exception:

When you already know she ain't worth it but are willing to pay the price.

[Chaellus]

oh no !1 wrong move my friend ive been with alot of girls and the consensus is that jewelry like said before isnt the 1st 2nd or 3rd gift on the first encounters more like maybe a year after.... giving a girl a gift like this on the firsr run is almost surely to get you off the radar she will think your coming on to strong...and shes most likely right that or maybe it is that she doesnt like you like that....

[donsolo]

Man, if you want a girl that wants you to buy her jewelry, maybe you're looking for the wrong girl...

I mean, the more $$ you spend on jewelry, the less you have on GEAR.

Also, IMHO, buying expensive gifts for someone you're not actually in a relationship (long term) with can come across as pretty pompous and can seem like you're trying to buy her affections.

And I'm sorry Birdi but when I read your post all I wanted to reply with is "you know why helen keller couldn't drive? because she's a woman." If you're on here something tells me you'd be more impressed with a good U87 clone than 8karats of IHS diamonds around your neck.

Seriously, some guys seem to want that ultra-girlie girl and it's really going to be aweful for you. What you need to do is hang out, meet some people, find someone you really click with, don't attempt to purchase their affections and then be done with it.

Now I'm not a great example because I for the most part, find girlie girls annoying as hell. I mean, if I can't take her shopping at Toys from the Attic or now South Austin Guitars, what the hell fun will she be most of the time? The girlie girls get in the way of doing the music. "Oh you should take me shopping..." Oh you should shut the hell up and let me finish scoring this film. "We never cuddle..." you never help me put up microphones...

And I'm happily married to the woman of my dreams. Girlie enough to not be creepy (IE does not posess a phallis) but can hang out like "one of the guys," is a worse Gear Slut than I am () and has the same twisted, dark sense of humor as I do. Met her at music school. Go figure, all the girls there were like parking spaces (taken or handicapped).

So in conclusion, calm down. No woman worth your time is going to NEED you to purchase expensive jewelry items and by doing so, you're probably hurting your chances. Be cool like Miles, man.

[Dan]

Originally Posted by kpaw

, 18 inch thick rope chain for her neck. Total cost was almost $8,000.

!

18" thick? Are you dating Mr. T?

seriously though...
from dyd (David DeAngelo)

This is a common dilemma that most men face...

"To pay or not to pay, that is the question."

Here are some of the problems that "paying"
creates:

1. It sets you up as the one who is "pursuing" the
woman, which symbolically gives away your power to
her.

2. It can be expensive.

3. It usually causes women to play even "harder to
get".

4. It triggers all kinds of "courtship" behaviors.
Like her making you prove yourself, waiting to
have sex, etc.

5. The places you'll be going to "pay" are often
not the best places to actually get to know
another human being. Movies, fancy dinners, etc.,
aren't natural environments and they don't lead to
people "being themselves".

[Dan]

also from dyd

WHAT'S REALLY GOING ON HERE? WHY DO MEN USUALLY
BUY THINGS FOR WOMEN? WHAT'S THE REAL ISSUE?

If you're willing to be completely open and
honest about it, you'll realize that most men:

1) Use dinners, flowers, gifts, and other "favors"
as bait and/or payment for women's time and
attention.

2) Don't feel deep down like an ATTRACTIVE woman
would want to be with them JUST BECAUSE SHE
ENJOYED THEIR COMPANY and felt ATTRACTION for
them.

3) Have no idea what the ACTUAL affect of trying
to lure women with these kinds of things is.

4) MOST IMPORTANTLY> DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO.

I can remember when I used to think that I
needed to always take a woman out, buy them
dinner, and pay for whatever I could think of to
get a woman's attention.

It was really a horrible feeling.

The worst part was that the more nice things I
did for women when I first met them, the more
apprehensive and "standoffish" they seemed to act.

It was almost as if they interpreted my actions
as ME TRYING TOO HARD, and they instinctively
played "hard to get" in response.

[kpaw]

[quote=Dan;3440405]18" thick? Are you dating Mr. T?
[quote]

Oops, I mean length, lol.

And I'm not dating her, she's my long-time wife.

[Birdi]

Originally Posted by donsolo

And I'm sorry Birdi but when I read your post all I wanted to reply with is "you know why helen keller couldn't drive? because she's a woman." If you're on here something tells me you'd be more impressed with a good U87 clone than 8karats of IHS diamonds around your neck.
.

eh? dont be sorry! I was just outlining how some women might respond to jewelry and other gifts....

You are right tho, I would be more impressed by a U87 clone than some ugly rocks for round my neck. Having said that, being a serious gearslut doesnt preclude an interest in earrings and other girlie accoutrements, or cars and sport for that matter.

B

[narcoman]

Originally Posted by Jay-

She wont wear my Jewelry gifts!

This women I'm trying to get with had a birthday so I got her a gold bracelet.
GASP, she never wears it! So I thought Id bump up the relationship and got her a nice gold necklace. So man she is not wearing it again!
I cant figure women out.

But lay it on me, not using my fancy gifts is another cold shoulder ain't it.
(then again, perhapse if I had a cell phone id be more popular)

The woman you're TRYING to get with?

So you're not with her? Buying a woman gifts who you're not with is, a little creepy! Unless she's a very very close friend.....

[gearaddict]

Originally Posted by Jay-

Hmm, I asked her. She said she is afrade of breaking it at work.
Hmm...

OMFG..and you believe that...sounds like something a parent says to a child when the child wants you to ware the macaroni necklace they made at school to work!!!

[Led]

[quote=Dan;3440405]18" thick? Are you dating Mr. T?

seriously though...
from dyd (David DeAngelo)
quote]

Dan knows game..

I think you moved to hard too soon. She may feel like you are just trying to buy your way into her pants with the jewellery. It's not an early on gift. Then asking her about it might have sounded a little needy in her eyes. Perhaps you could try being a little less 'keen' , a little more of a challenge?
(not trying to be insulting btw)