Anyone got a significant other that doesn't like their music?

[Barcode]

My lady friend is in love with the likes of Dashboard ect.... But she all about hanging out in my studio and giving me back rubs while I work my knobs (No pun intended).

[WDM]

Originally Posted by JRock

Who's got a girlfriend/boyfriend that doesn't like their music?
What do you do about it?
My Ex didn't.

My SO don't like my music, and most likely she just don't care about it at all.
She could listen to it, if I'll ask her.
Then she'll say something like: "What's that horrible sound? It's like a hammer on my head ...", and that's all I usually got.

Usually ... it turns out later - that "horrible sound" IS the sound that needs to be adjusted in the mix ...

I don't like the TV shows she likes to watch. And I don't care about it either.

What's important: I respect what she likes, and she respects what I like.

I could make jokes about those shows, but if the TV doesn't work for some reason, I would fix it - so she could watch it.

She would adjust her plans as well, or she'll help me with something, if I need extra time (or whatever) to finish my stuff.

That's how it probably should be ... and that works for us for a long time

[djanthonyw]

Simply put, I'm not interested in having a relationship unless the girl likes EDM.

[wafflesomd]

Originally Posted by asynchro_nous

I'm in a committed relationship with a great woman who, when it comes to music -- and the arts generally -- really "gets it" ...

Once you find someone who not only is creative herself and appreciates and relishes creativity generally, but also encourages you to be as creative as possible, it makes all of your previous relationships that lacked this magic look completely ridiculous, empty, and meaningless.

This.

After I started dating my current SO, I couldn't believe that I wasted my time on every other GF I've had.

She loves EDM and we go to a ton of raves together. She'll grab a seat watch me produce.

[entropy]

Mine politely loves everything I do, until I roll it back for another pass, and another pass and another pass. 3 hours into a mix she's hating it and will normally leave the house.....

... and then I burn a car copy and drop it when she's in the car

But really, I've had both extremes, it's no biggie either way.

My kids on the other hand, do have opinions and they are usually pretty perceptive if something's working well or not

[ctrlshft]

Just an observation: This place is one giant sausage party.
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Would love to see some perspective from the other sex.

[Akh]

Originally Posted by asynchro_nous

I'm in a committed relationship with a great woman who, when it comes to music -- and the arts generally -- really "gets it" ...

Once you find someone who not only is creative herself and appreciates and relishes creativity generally, but also encourages you to be as creative as possible, it makes all of your previous relationships that lacked this magic look completely ridiculous, empty, and meaningless.

I'm on the exact opposite end of the spectrum with this one. I've dated at least a dozen women that were highly creative and would "get it", and all I found was they either entertained the self-centric ego in me too much or they suffered from a wannabe Madonna-complex that ultimately would lead to a host of problems. My current girlfriend hasn't got a creative bone in her, but she's been more inspirational to my creative pursuits and my own personal development than anyone else I've ever met. For me it's the relationships with women with a strong interest in creative pursuits or similar tastes in creativity that have been completely ridiculous, empty, and meaningless. But I am a man that loves variety, and somehow I've found that with one person.

Originally Posted by keybdwizrd

25 years next month. Has it been easy? Not always. Has it been worth it? Absolutely.

Congratulations!

Originally Posted by wafflesomd

This.

As a general comment toward internet trends and the use of language I've never really understood simply stating "this" while quoting another person to signify complete agreement. It seems weird to me.

Originally Posted by ctrlshft

Just an observation: This place is one giant sausage party.
dfegaddfegaddfegaddfegaddfegad

Would love to see some perspective from the other sex.

Good observation.

[jbartee]

Originally Posted by Akh

As a general comment toward internet trends and the use of language I've never really understood simply stating "this" while quoting another person to signify complete agreement. It seems weird to me.

This.

[Akh]

Originally Posted by jbartee

This.

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As a side remark, if you Google "my boyfriend hates my music" you get quite a few results from women asking what to do in this situation on various web forums and the like. On the other hand if you Google "my girlfriend hates my music" you get a bunch of results that pretty much don't have anything to do with the search (even the first result with the exact same title is actually about something else entirely). Now what does that say about men in relationships?

[Oli]

Originally Posted by keybdwizrd

My marriage has nothing to do with my music.

I'm pretty much the same. My wife isn't into music at all. She doesn't get what I'm into. She is supportive to an extent. I love my wife though, and she is an amazing person.

At the moment, I don't have anyone in my life with whom I share my passion. That's a bit lonely in some respects. For various reasons, I'm not in touch with my old music friends. It was really nice to share that with others, but things change, and there is more to life than my hobby.

[Acid Hazard]

There's absolutely no way i could date someone who wasn't into the same music i am. It's too much apart of me to settle for anything less. They also have to be tolerant of the amount of money i spend on gear =o]

[JRock]

The money was definitely a problem.
I spent all my dough on the stuff and so much of my time, and she was not predisposed to liking electronic music so it represented all the things that took me away from her...

[PeteJames]

It's not so much my music but no girl I've ever met has had a passion for any of the music I love. Most still listen to dfegadcheesy boy bands and I tried to accept it but it is so intolerable (IN THEIR MID 20s!!). And then they have the cheek to call me narrow minded for liking almost every other genre except chart pop stuff. That's why they are ex's, well, partly. I actually find because of this I often tend to lose my interest and passion for music.

I've had many an argument over girls that try and insist I wake up to chart music - come on! Westlife before 12pm makes it 10 x worse lol.
Also girls that insist on playing pop music in their cars and then complain when I put on my headphones, claim they can hear a slight noise leakage from my headphones and turn their crap up further.

As you may be able to tell I've had it with girls that have no interest in proper music - i.e. music that is manufactured for the sole purpose of making money. I practically have nothing in common with them because underground and experimental music is kind of my life.

Where are the girls that like real music and actually have their own individual taste? Do you even exist? PM me

I get the feeling that they are so rare that I will die alone if I wait to find one lol.
Rant Over

Here's a question: Would you take a mediocre looking girl who loves the same music as you over a stunner that listens to everything you hate?

[Karloff70]

Without having read the thread what comes to mind is this:

It's not important whether your other half gets excited about the same subject matter as you. It IS important that your other half get excited about YOU getting excited about whatever it may be. And the other way round. If she loves her flower shop and gets really excited about it you don't have to care about flowers, but if you can't automatically share and love her excitement about it you have a wall. And a problem.

So as long as she gets excited about seeing you shiny about making your music you're good, any shared love of THE ACTUAL thing you get excited about is bonus. Not even that important.

Having said that, types of music are a type of personality calibration mechanism, and if she ONLY loves music you think is total crap and the reverse you most likely have other problems anyway.

[PeteJames]

We need to hang outside of these conferences or do a Mrs Doubtfire

Women's Audio Mission

"A field where women are chronically under-represented (less than 5%)" - Yikes! And of those 5% less than 0.1% of those have the same taste in music....

Hmmm. I need a plan.

[butterfly]

.............write her a song, works for me. Along with bottomless pits of despair my gf is like a few others here my main muse I have written a couple of songs for her in the two years we have been to-gether not actually out of any other reason than genuine inspiration but do it and she'll love you for it. On a side note my gf is a doctor so sort of polar opposites to me however she likes music and ironically has become extremely perceptive and critical about both my music and other productions she hears, bless her, she'll say things like mm " bass is too loud, kik drum not loud enough....vocals not bright enough"......................man I love her. She recently had an interview where she was asked about situations where she had to use her initiative ouside the field of medecine, she replied "music production"!

[GotGear?]

Two ex's later I don't have that problem any longer and don't plan on ever having it again.

Multiple passes for mixing used to really annoy them. But what I think really annoyed them is that they weren't the center of the universe while I was recording or mixing.

[syzygywell]

Originally Posted by ctrlshft

Just an observation: This place is one giant sausage party.
dfegaddfegaddfegaddfegaddfegad

Would love to see some perspective from the other sex.

The last one was probably the worst. She likes music to fill space.

Well my perspective is that most of my GF's musical taste has pretty much sucked except for the gf I had in high school. But then we started off as best friends and shared much of the same music tastes.

I'm into melodic stuff as well as harder stuff. These days I listen to Aphex Twin, BoC, Memory Tapes, Nightmares on Wax, Cut Copy, Burial, Amon Tobin, some lesser known electronic acts.. Tycho, Pretty Lights, Washed Out, Toro y Moi. I have taste that is fairly eclectic but always leaning towards tweaked interesting sounds.

The last GF said she had never had a girlfriend's music that made her feel like turning it off more than mine. Yeah she's history.

Music is so important to me its hard not to share it with someone I'm with. Fortunately my Cousin/bandmate and I share that.. as well as my sister. She's got good taste too. But yeah if I had my preference I'd rather be with someone who gets it.

[crufty]

Originally Posted by GotGear?

Multiple passes for mixing used to really annoy them. But what I think really annoyed them is that they weren't the center of the universe while I was recording or mixing.

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[AJ Reynolds]

my lady like most of the stuff i make. she's into house and techno and can tell me if a track is working or not. if she likes it she will show her friends what i've made.

she doesn't mind me buying gear either because i've convinced her that it will make my music better.

[Karloff70]

Originally Posted by AJ Reynolds

my lady like most of the stuff i make. she's into house and techno and can tell me if a track is working or not. if she likes it she will show her friends what i've made.

she doesn't mind me buying gear either because i've convinced her that it will make my music better.

Are you a hypnotist?

[target_destroyed]

Originally Posted by PeteJames

Here's a question: Would you take a mediocre looking girl who loves the same music as you over a stunner that listens to everything you hate?

Fvck no! I can always put in ear plugs, but I can't perform cosmetic surgery.

[Xero]

Originally Posted by target_destroyed

Fvck no! I can always put in ear plugs, but I can't perform cosmetic surgery.

lol, you can't fix stupid...you can always get cosmetic surgery.

[PeteJames]

Right so far we've got hypnotism and forced cosmetic surgery I get the feeling we're fighting a losing battle. I'm inclined to go with the hypnotism as it's cheaper, less likely to get you sued and she won't end up looking like Sylvester Stallone's mother. Also mind control ensures she won't have a mid life crisis and start listening to ABBA.

This could be a new career for me. Music hypnotism...I like it.

[roland4387]

The Bad - Same GF for almost 7 years, and she can't close the door fast enough when I start to bang out some acid.

The Good - She bought me my 808

[idave]

Clearly one has to go and it's nobodies business which but if you write music that your partner (wife,girlfriend,boyfriend,sig other!) hates and your really passionate about your music then one or the other HAS to go!!!
Not simple BUT it is the reality!!

[AJ Reynolds]

Originally Posted by Karloff70

Are you a hypnotist?

no but i use to be a salesman

[gregwar]

i think if people really want to address the gf/gear issue there has to be some sort of balance. for me personally there is none of that which could still be manageable with a proper attitude but my attitude is bad too.

music isn't everything in relationships there are other factors but many times those are overshadowed by this obsession. if you live in an urban environment there are still lots of good chix out there but they're definitely hard to find.

now i'm pretty much only interested in chix with lexus, bmw, accura, etc and hang out in karaoke bars for kicks, try this line: you have a beautiful voice i'm a producer. works, especially if you can afford to buy her a few drinks.

but in all seriousness make money, pay your half or more AND be able to afford some place off property for your studio. try to find a great gf/wife, spend a lot of time with her and don't be broke all the time from buying too many gears !!1

or be a tortured artist, lolz

[Wolf2007]

We have a simple agreement that we devised to deal with this.

Like all good agreements, both parties are granted equal numbers of concessions.

I can do whatever I want with the money I make and am free to create terrible music with impunity.

In return, she can cook me whatever I want for my dinner and is free to do all of the ironing.

So, come on lads, tell her you need some vintage roles to go with those vintage synths.

[darthtrader]

Originally Posted by idave

Clearly one has to go and it's nobodies business which but if you write music that your partner (wife,girlfriend,boyfriend,sig other!) hates and your really passionate about your music then one or the other HAS to go!!!
Not simple BUT it is the reality!!

And the older you get you realize how many girls you basically used but wouldn't have a relationship with, even though they would have made amazing wives because of some bizarre weird noise obsession that they just seemed lame for not liking at the time...In favor of wasting your 20s chasing after wacko "cool" artsy chicks who "get" what you are doing...Two wackos though shouldn't be in a relationship..it won't end well....Of course your gf/wife should be at least tolerant of what you spend your time with, if not interested but living with someone and making them listen to "boom boom boom boom" for 4 hours a day is going to end things. Its not reasonable from our end..its just being an asshole.
If you are in your 20s and won't date a woman who doesn't have your taste in music you are well down the dark path towards some one like GotGear? and myself...
I have girlfriends...always at least 2 to play against eachother.."significant other" is an alien concept at this point. Its not bad at all, hell no..as long as you forget about kids and marriage.
If you care about kids and marriage though you are going the wrong way using music as a profile as far as a "wife" indicator. Thats just ****ing ********.