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Originally Posted by Teddy Ray  dont agree with you there. in my opinion a friend is much more than a mindless "yes man" piling on the applause and praise.,,if someone tells me a track is good when in their mind it sucks...they arent doing me a favor...as a matter of fact, it isnt a very friendly thing to do.
if something of mine sucks I want to hear it. unedited.
a friend does not support even when the other person is wrong. a *real* friend kicks ass and drags him kicking and screaming into the light. if one wants yes men...strangers are very good at that. friends are there for truthfulness. |
I agree with you up to a point. But you have to take this in context. If my friend is going to do something seriously wrong, or even make a poor choice, it's your duty to help and advise them. If they don't listen to your advice, make that mistake and suffer from it, a true friend would help them not say "I told you so". Nothing is more irritating than someone who is so intent on wanting the best for you they won't let you do your own thing, regardless of whether you're making a mistake.
Now, if that same friend came to you with a premix copy of their album and asked for your opinion, I'd say go with it and offer as much constructive criticism as you like. That is your duty as a friend.
If on the other hand, as here it's a finished product, what is you being honest going to achieve? if it is really bad, all you'll do is upset your friend - they can't change it now, they could end up hating their endeavours, and overall will feel worse about something they were previously happy with. That's not friendly behaviour to me - that's called being a bit of a b@stard.
A friend would praise the good things, not mention the bad, and (if possible) offer to help pre-final project next time.
So if you read my post properly, I'm a long way from suggesting being a yes man - merely using tact and sensitivity. In an ideal world we could just be truthful, but whilst you may have a thick skin (I think that's obvious from your .sig) most artists don't, and most people don't want to upset their friends.