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Originally Posted by Jay-  There nothing creepy about it. Iv cooker her dinner over 100 times in the past 2 years.
I gave her a new gift last night walking home when I pulled a 6 week old kitten out of a live drainage ditch being swept away into the sewer. Didn't cost me a cent and I looked the hero. Pretty nice kitten also, bright orange tabby!  |
There's nothing you can do in this situation now--you've been stuck in the friend-zone since the first dinner you cooked and didn't get her buzzed and have sex, maybe even before that.
Everything "nice guys," here said about getting to know women is great, if it were 1940. It's not, and times have changed. Women are just as masculine--in many cases, more so--than most men, and all that old school "nice guy," behavior makes you look like a big pu--y. You need to look up Neill Strauss on myspace--he wrote a book called, "The Game." I'm not saying it's good, but if you read some of his techniques on how to treat women, it would balance out your own nice-guy, needy, "sweet," behavior that will only continue to make friends of women you like.
The truth is, women are always pursuing someone, so if you want to be that guy, you have to be a challenge.
You also need to listen to Tom Leykis when you get back to the US, or go to his web site. His show features his own experience, and countless american men who call in to say about how they were, "nice guys," and got trampled in life by women.
I'm not a woman-hater, I love women for what they are, and have been with some of the most attractive in the highest-attractiveness bracket in the country (world)--Los Angeles. I never had to buy anything to do this, though sometimes I did--as in drinks, not jewelry! Occasionally lunch or dinner--preferably brunch the next day.
When I say "for what they are," I mean that men cannot use a woman to find their self-worth, seeking approval, etc. If you behave this way, as most of us do, it's not going to work out. As soon as you need a woman more than she needs you, it's over--clearly the case with "goldie."
I would recommend practicing on women you're not attracted to. If you think this is cold, just realize that that is how women do it--they've been practicing at relationships since they were on the playground at school--while we were dreaming of being on the radio!
I've coached dozens of men into successful relationships, most or all of them were, "nice guys." That didn't change, but they learned how to behave in order to appear interesting (a challenge) to women, not needy. I used to be a pu--y too--luckily, I never got in too deep--kids, married, divorced, broke etc. Since I've demonstrated new behavior, women respect me, and actually want to be with me, because they can see I don't NEED them.
Sorry for the long post, but if you listen and apply, it will help, I promise!