Lot's of click threads here already.
Lot's of diff between "playing with a click" and "making it feel good".
No substitute for lot's of practice with a click, or other reference.
also, try a "Beat bug" Beat Bug 3
it can change your life. especially if paired up with Elastic Audio.
I find it pretty rare to get a "band" drummer in the studio that has enough facility to play with a click at various tempos, and be able to adapt new parts on the fly. There's a good reason why session players are session players.
that being said, I love it when a drummer comes in and has the parts so nailed for their band, that all they have to do is settle in with the clik and perform.
again, no shortcut for getting comfortable with a click... you gotta do it alot, and LISTEN BACK, and make adjustments. Best done in the shed, not the studio.
Also nothing wrong with blowing off the click, and going for feel. Unfortunately, 90% of my work is with click, and if not, it's with Beat Bug for reference.